Mother’s Day is one of those times that can be both tender and complicated. When you have a friend who has lost a child, it can be especially heavy. If you’re like me, you want your friend to know that you are thinking of her, but you also don’t want to inadvertently cause any pain by saying or doing the wrong thing.
Over the years, I have learned that most people who are grieving appreciate when someone acknowledges their loss. A simple gesture can make a grieving mother feel remembered and seen. Here are some thoughtful ways you can show her you care.
Acknowledge Her and Her Child
Send a short text: “I’m thinking of you today and remembering [child’s name].”
Mail or drop off a handwritten note
Light a candle and let her know you’re doing it in honor of her child
Offer Tangible Care
Drop off a meal (no need to stay unless she invites you in)
Leave coffee, breakfast, or a favorite treat on the porch
Send a small bouquet—or even a plant that lasts beyond the day
Include paper goods or something practical so she doesn’t have to think about anything
Remove One Small Decision
Text: “I’m bringing dinner at 5:30—no need to respond.”
Offer to pick up groceries or run an errand
If she has other children, offer to take them for a bit so she can rest
Give Her Permission Not to Respond
Let her know there’s no pressure to reply or engage
Avoid asking open-ended questions like “What do you need?”
Instead, make gentle, specific offers
Remember Her Beyond Mother’s Day
Mark the date for future years
Check in the following week
Continue to say her child’s name in the months ahead
On a day that can feel especially heavy, small acts of care can remind a grieving mother that she is not alone.
Warmly,
Adina
In Case You Missed It
If you know someone who is sick, grieving, or just had a baby, bringing them a freezer meal is such a great option so they can enjoy it when it’s needed. See what freezer meal Nadia recently put together to take!
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If you’re looking for a sweet Mother’s Day craft idea, this is such a fun and thoughtful DIY gift that’s easy to put together and perfect for making someone feel extra loved!
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Check out this serving tray Nadia found for potlucks and parties! Perfect for fruits and veggies, setting out toppings and sides, or even transporting food when you’re taking a meal to someone.
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A lot of love and hard work goes into the meals you send from our online store. Check out these behind-the-scenes pics of our team packaging all the delicious meals you’re sending!
If you’re looking for great gluten-free meal options, check the dishes we’re pinning on our Pinterest page!
