If you’ve ever lost someone you love, you know how much it means when someone reaches out to let you know they are thinking of you. Social media comments and texts are a common way to show support now, but sending something by mail is still my favorite way to care for a loved one who is grieving. There’s something special about a pretty card sent by a friend sitting on your counter.
Sending a card after the initial wave of condolences has passed can be especially meaningful for someone who is still grieving.
For years, my approach to sending sympathy cards was simple: I’d buy a single sympathy card the next time I was at the store. Over time, that became inefficient, and I often didn’t end up sending cards when I wished I had. A few years ago, I found a better way to consistently send sympathy cards to friends and family.
Buy Sympathy Cards in Bulk
Find a sympathy card you like and buy it in bulk. I’m disappointed to discover when writing this that the company I use is no longer in business. This week, I’m ordering new cards from Etsy and I’ll report back on the quality. Mary Dean, the artist who designs the cards for our shipped meals, also creates beautiful cards worth checking out!
I’ll also keep blank notecards on hand. This is my current favorite from Walmart.
Buy Stamps
Have a book of stamps on hand, so you can easily drop your card in the mail
Set a Reminder to Send the Card
I put a reminder on my calendar or phone about 4-6 weeks after the funeral. I simply write “Send card to _________.” When the day arrives, I grab a card and a stamp that I already have.
If I don’t have someone’s address, I’ve found that searching their name and city online often does the trick.
Write a Simple Message
If writing a message is what holds you back, select a card with a pre-printed sentiment you like.
If you write your own note, it doesn’t need to be long. I usually share how sorry I am for their loss and include a memory if I have one.
Add a Little Something Extra
If I know someone well, I sometimes include a small item inside the card. This is never necessary, but just another thoughtful way to care for your grieving loved one. I currently like adding my favorite calming tea. Other meaningful ideas might include a forget-me-knot seed packet, a bookmark, seed paper in the shape of a heart, or a favorite photo.
These small preparations make it easier to reach out when words feel hard, allowing care to arrive right when it’s needed most.
Warmly,
Adina
In Case You Missed It
1. Sometimes hard seasons feel isolating, overwhelming, and heavier than we ever expected. And often the most meaningful support isn’t a grand gesture. It’s a simple text that says “I see you” or “I’m here.” Here are 5 texts to send to someone struggling!
2. Check out this fun idea Nadia shared. She turned her home into a little cafe, invited friends over, had everyone bring a dish, and enjoyed some much-needed time together during the colder months. It’s such a simple, meaningful way to gather friends!
3. Free printables are one of our favorite little gifting secrets. From adding a cute tag to a drink you include with a meal to dressing up a teacher appreciation gift, these simple touches make everything feel more intentional.
Don’t have Instagram? You can download a free thank you printable right here!
4. See what others are taking when they sign up to take a meal, like this kid-friendly burger slider recipe and easy sides!
Don’t have Instagram? Get the burger slider recipe here!
5. If you’re looking for great gluten-free meal options, check the dishes we’re pinning on our Pinterest page!
